Raleigh’s Whiskey Kitchen owner rebuilds life with goal of walking again


[BLANK_AUDIO] It’s who I am. I mean, it’s who I was. It’s who I am, and
it’s who I will will be, and I have days where I’m super
depressed about this. And I spend the day crying but that has to be short lived, it cannot go into a second that I
could feel sorry for myself for a day and neglect everything and
everybody. But then I’ve got to,
>>Life goes on.>>But then [INAUDIBLE] I’ve
got manager’s meetings and I’ve got therapy and
I’ve scheduled myself. Therapy almost always drags
me out of whatever mood. [MUSIC] We’d have lunches at the cafe. I stood around, had a cigarette
with the owner of the place talking about my little 150 motorbike. That’s pretty much the last thing I
remember, I’m really thinking hard but I believe I remember getting
on the bike heading And taking that left and
I don’t remember anything after sitting at that light until
I was in the hospital. [MUSIC]>>I mean, I remember the whole day. And I remember leaving him and
I remember thinking, right when I got in the car,
I’m glad I told him I loved him. [MUSIC] I saw him in the room. I’ve got back there somehow and
they shuffled me away pretty quickly, but when I initially saw him, it just didn’t
occur to mean that this is what it was. It took a long time to wrap
around the idea of him being in such a serious condition. Because he looked fine, I mean, yeah,
his arm was mangled up, banged up. But he wasn’t bruised, his face. And you would think, you have hit
something with your head like that, that there’d be more trauma to what
appears to be your overall face and body and it just wasn’t [CROSSTALK]
>>Yep.>>And he just looked like he was asleep. [BLANK_AUDIO]>>Tell us what you can do.>>I can wiggle my toes.>>Now show us what you can do.>>Yay, [LAUGH]
>>Way to move your toes. Yeah and a wink.>>We lived very separate lives. She did her thing, I did my thing,
we’d meet when we weren’t doing things. And so, to now come back and
start reliving that old life is difficult.>>Well, but also it’s like reliving the
old life is also kind of starting over. SCI in and
of itself can be a full time job.>>I’m having a real hard
time navigating how to manage a group of people that
have never seen me work before. [MUSIC]>>To enter work in [CROSSTALK].>>I haven’t figured that out yet,
to be perfectly honest. I have yet to figure out how to show
people that I am that kind of guy, that I’m that kind of a manager,
that I’m that kind of a boss.>>And he’s one of them.>>That I’m that kind of owner,
that you don’t have to call me chef. You can just call me Thor. You don’t have to call me boss,
you don’t have to call me Mr. Thor. Just able with the,
because I am one of you guys, I see myself as being no
higher than any of my employees, cuz they’re only
as good as I am, right?>>And so, learning to manage in
a different way has been really hard and I think he struggles with it all the time,
just emotionally of not being able to support his team in
the way that he really wants to.>>It is very hard juggling. Cuz both the business and the therapy and the relationship, but-
>>He’s very lucky.>>That I have a brain.>>That he has a brain. That he can use it. That he has, that he had
the business set up in place to come to give him that purpose
after an injury like this. It is wild to see that three years
later it’s still going strong. There’s still so much growth potential and
people are still responding well to it. It’s humbling.>>My positivity is pretty much all geared towards the fact that I know
I’m going to get out of this chair. That’s where my positivity is focused.>>It is a choice to
make the most out of it. You still have to live a life. You still are alive. And you have been given this
chance to do something else and to be active and
to make changes and to be positive. And it is hard to do that
when you have a rough day or for me,
when I’m watching him just be struggle and just be so upset, be in so much pain. And there’s literally nothing
I can do about it, and to both not be desensitized to that as
a reality and maintain the empathy for it. And then also, all right, we got to go,
we got to keep it going and keep things in commitments
that we have to stick to and, that’s why I think being back
here has been very good for him. He has not had enough opportunity
to sit there and say, what was [INAUDIBLE]
>>We plan for the worst and hope for the best.>>Yeah.>>We’re barely able to think four months-
>>Yeah.>>Out, let alone two.>>We’re just trying to
make it through the week.>>I’d like to be able
to give the girl a hug. [MUSIC] I’d like to be able to get some people that deserve it for
everything they’ve done for me. That’s first, that is soon as I’m able to, [MUSIC] Get these arms working. I’m gonna wrap around my dog or,
>>[LAUGH]>>So, wrapping around the trainer. That finally got me there. [MUSIC]

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